FetLife: what it means
A long-running social network for the kink community, widely used to find munches, classes and events. It is a separate site and is not connected to Sparks.
In practice
People often use FetLife to find local munches, classes and events. It is a separate site with its own rules and privacy settings, and it is not connected to Sparks. As with any social network, think about what you share publicly and use the site’s privacy options.
Consent and safety
Community spaces run on discretion and consent. Do not out people, photograph them or share who attended. Ask before touching anyone, respect house rules, and remember that being in a kink space is never consent to anything. For meeting someone new, see our safety tips.
Related terms
Learn more
Test what you know with the Kink Glossary Quiz: ten random questions on consent, kink and ENM terms, with an explanation after every answer.
Browse all 46 terms in the Sparks kink glossary, or try the playful Freak Scale quiz.
General education for adults 18+, not medical or legal advice. Definitions vary between communities; when in doubt, ask your partner what a word means to them.